the validity of better

If friends or boyfriends were like grapes, does that mean they are all the same? On the surface, they seem to be so. Put it this way, grapes come in bunches, and they're all round-ish in shape and sweet-tasting. So when one happens to leave your life, is it alright to just pick another one from the bunch to replace his or her position? Of course, it'd be dumb to completely rule out the possibility of finding other candidates that might fill the empty space, because the truth is; everybody needs to move on. Yet, can they truly fill the gap?

The thing is, grapes aren't just grapes. The are green seedless grapes, plain green grapes, red flame whatever seedless grapes, plain red flame whatever grapes, et cetera. That's why there are about a gazillion different wines produced from a gazillion different grapes [well, not technically]. I feel that it's the same way for friends and boyfriends. Though they do indeed gain the same status as a friend or boyfriend, they are hardly the same person. Obviously, one person can rarely connect with you emotionally and mentally similarly as another, the existence of personalities being the reason. Thus, the birth of inevitable comparisons of past, and present relationships.

There are generally a few types or relationships you can have with the opposite sex:
1) You feel like you're dating your perfect best friend or soul mate with unlimited
fun
2) Sparks, chemistry, fatal physical attraction. Need I say more?
3) A grown-up relationship where you have to be aware of your responsibilities and
it's all about rationalizing and understanding.

Friendships are much simpler:
1) Perfect friendships
3) Regular friendships whereby you find yourself hating them sometimes but loving
them at other times
2) Fake friendships

During the process of 'moving on' I got to thinking how different are the relationships I have now compared to the past. And I found myself realizing that what I had can never be replaced. Because even though what I have and had might fall into the same category in terms of the type of relationship, 2 different people are still 2 different people. You cannot rate one as 'better' than the other because they weren't playing the same field.

If you think I'm being vague, let me provide you with examples. How many of you can actually say that the topics and the focus of your conversations with two people in past relationships are exactly the same? How many can say that the experiences you've had were identical? This was when I realized that all along we have deemed some to be 'better' than the others, but what constitutes better? What is my judgement based on anyway? Nothing, I tell you. There is simply no way to compare because different people possess different qualities, no matter good or bad. The saying we've always thought was lame is indeed true; people are special in their own ways. Another person's 'better' might be another's 'worse', mind you. Also, the memories you've shared with another person are exclusive and exquisite, only the both of you can savour them. When you think back, how festive!

When it comes to loving, lets just embrace every single bit of the package and enjoy the love, love.